Day 42 of Gratitude – Road Trip!

Today, I drove up to visit my son who lives about three hours away. I’ll send a couple days here then had home. Not a major trip, but there’s something about getting behind the wheel of a car and driving somewhere that is simply fun. Three hours for my road trip was just about right – not long enough to be grueling or even to get bored. My mind wanders freely while driving, coming up with new scenarios for my books and new perspectives on just about anything.

Had a great time today. Looking forward to spending some time with my son, then a pleasant drive home in a day or two. I like road trips.

Day 41 of Gratitude – A Brain

Recently, someone told me I think too much and  should stop. I’m not able to do that, but even if I could, I wouldn’t because of a conversation I had during my senior year in college.

I was at a professor’s house with an incredibly intelligent fellow senior. She and I were speculating on how much easier life would be if we were dumb and didn’t think so much. The professor, Ron Santoni, promptly chastised us on both intellectual and spiritual levels. For all our claimed  intellectual prowess, he told us, we failed to see that the issues others face each day were at least as difficult for and important to them as the ones we considered were for us. His spiritual argument was a bit more forceful – essentially, “How dare we scoff at the gift God has given us.” He was right to correct us.

I doubt I will ever understand why I am compelled to examine human behavior for what makes individuals tick. I admit the constant search is not always pleasurable, particularly at those times when I’m isolated and turn the analysis inward on myself. But at the same time, I believe it is important to understand people and how their needs and fears show through whatever role they are playing. I have been blessed with a brain that seems particularly suited for those thoughts, analyses, and observations, a brain that makes me effective at connecting with others.

Ron Santoni was right – it is a wonderful gift that should not be wished away.

Day 40 of Gratitude – A weekend off!

I’ve spent my adult life living by deadlines. As an attorney, I could get away with just about anything except missing a deadline. That was the ultimate no-no. As a novelist, I still set deadlines and believe it’s important to meet them. It’s more fun to write when deeply inspired, but few authors would ever complete a book that way.

Having missed three weeks being sick, I’ve been playing catch up, pushing through to write. I am behind and the deadline is looming. It’s a lot of self-imposed pressure. And yet, I took the weekend off. I’d intended to take only one day off and spend it with my husband who wasn’t working yesterday either. But then his appointments cancelled for today and I decided to extend my respite. TWO days off in a row. A Saturday AND a Sunday. A weekend off!

We haven’t done anything earth-shattering. Cleaned the house. Got hair cuts. Ran errands. But we did those things together and I didn’t stress that I wasn’t writing (like I did every day while I was sick). It was a nice time to recharge, and I am grateful I took the opportunity. I’ve enjoyed it!

Day 39 of Gratitude – Fuchsia

What’s not to love about fuchsia?  First, there’s the unusual spelling of the color – one I always get wrong, have to look up and correct. Then there’s the electric purpley pink color itself. It’s upbeat, exciting, and in-your-face. Looked out the window this morning across a vista of white and gray and brown. In the distance, a woman was walking in a fuchsia coat. It made me smile. How could it not?

Day 37 of Gratitude – a songbird

20140206_101218This is the view from the front window of my house, pardon the screen.  The snow is beautiful and the ice on the trees sparkles as it catches the light. Still, it’s a rather desolate, reminding me of the phrase “dead of winter.”

But this morning, that bleak silence was broken by the melodic twittering of a bird, forcing a smile onto my face and warmth into my heart. It sang a promise of a spring not far away, regardless of what that silly groundhog said last week.

Thanks songbird. I look forward to hearing more of your host soon.

Day 36 of Gratitude – The Snow Warrior

I haven’t seen or heard much from my husband over the past month. He avoids me on those rare occasions when I’m sick, both to keep from getting sick himself and so as not to expose me to germs he might bring home from his office or clients. I’ve been lonely although, now that I’m nearly better, the past few days with him around have been very nice.

In one of my books, the protagonist realizes that love and caring is not found in words, but in the things people do. I was reminded of that this morning.

A winter storm dropped 7 inches of snow and thick layer of ice overnight. I heard Mark rustling around this morning, but rolled over and went back to sleep. While I was dosing, he went out and shoveled the extraordinarily heavy mess off the driveway alone. Sure, it needed to be done but I could have helped, at least some. He wanted me to rest and to not exert myself in the cold quite yet.

I love my snow warrior. Thanks!

Day 35 of Gratitude – Eustachian tubes!

Eustachian tubes – kind of a gross thing to be thankful for. Those little natural canals that drain fluid from my ears into my throat. Why am I thankful for them today? Because mine, for the first time in over three weeks, are not plugged. That means fluid is not backing up behind my ear drums, getting infected, making it hard to hear, and creating a general wombly feeling.

My ears are working. Three cheers for my eustachian tubes!

Day 34 of Gratitude – Water from the skies

A few years ago, I was in a writers’ workshop where we were given a group project of developing an alien culture. One premise was that this foreign planet was blanketed in thick clouds, blotting out the sun. Everyone in the group, aside from me, was from the western U.S. They had trouble imagining what it would be like to live continuously under a sky in which no sun could be seen – not even a faint glowing orb through the clouds. The idea of not knowing the sun existed or what it looked like was so foreign to them as to make the assignment difficult.

I live in the Midwest. None of this was hard for me.

It’s hard to be thankful for the unending grayness of the sky or the fact that it rains or snows at least every other day. But on the other side of this country, they pray for this. California is out of water and, not only is there no sign of relief from the drought, it would take months of rain to make a difference. Water is absolutely necessary for life, let alone our daily conveniences – like showers. And that’s what comes in those thick gray clouds still hovering above me – water. So there’s a reason to be thankful for their gloom after all.

 

Day 33 of Gratitude – Groundhog Day!

Groundhog_Day_(movie_poster)It’s Groundhog Day. So in honor of the event, my husband put on on of his favorite movies –  Groundhog Day. It’s a light-hearted romantic comedy in which the self-centered Bill Murray character must relive the same day over and over. In a world that no longer includes consequences, he starts out spending his time self-indulgently engaged in things that would otherwise be socially forbidden until, when that no longer holds any thrill, he spends his days killing himself to no avail. He finally grows as a person and spends his time helping others, winning the girl of his dreams and breaking the repetitive curse.

It’s not a profound movie, but a nice break for a rainy, icy day.

 

Day 32 of Gratitude – Squirrels

My desk overlooks a patch of woods behind my house. Today it’s above freezing but the ground is still snow covered, making any activity in the woods stand out. And boy is there a lot of activity!  A dozen or so squirrels have emerged from their nests to gather the food they hid last fall, stretch their legs, explore the changes in their surroundings, and just generally frolic about.

They look so carefree, jumping about, running up and down the trees – enjoying the moment for what it is rather than worrying about what might happen next. A good lesson to remember.