Over the course of my life, I’ve encountered negative people who tell me I can’t. I’ve been told I can’t be good at math because I’m not a guy. I’ve been told I can’t date anyone because I’m mixed race. I’ve been told I can’t be a good attorney because I smile and am good-natured. And I’ve been told I can’t be a successful author writing cross-genre books.
While it’s easy to say no one should ever be put down with such baseless negativity, for me, there was an upside. Being told I couldn’t accomplish something caused me to examine my own beliefs and ferret out those that were unnecessarily holding me back. Being told I couldn’t was, in effect, a dare to make me prove them wrong.
And so, my high school calculus teacher said I had the most analytic mind he’d ever taught, I’ve been happily married for 30 years to a guy I dated for three years before that, I’ve been recognized for years in Best Lawyers in America, and not only have both of my published novels received critical praise, but the first one has remained on Amazon’s New Adult Fantasy Bestseller list for three weeks.
So go ahead, tell me I can’t. Let’s see what I can do.